The moment you know someone is lying, your heart drops into your stomach. You feel a rollercoaster of emotions, and, try figuring out why, oh why, they would lie to you.
Maybe you get angry. Chances are you feel at least a little betrayed. You might be sad, or confused. And, if this wasn't the first time they've lied to you, you might be considering cutting ties.
Regardless, I think it's safe to say, most of us out there don't like liars.
One of the basic principles of being a decent human being is that you shouldn't lie.
There's even a commandment dedicated to it. THOU SHALT NOT LIE.
Public officials look out. You will be outed.
Partners in a relationship beware. Once caught, the relationship is over.
Lying friends? Friendship [eventually] over.
There is very little toleration for lies, and liars.
And yet, I'd be willing to bet, that each of us lets someone very close to us, lie all to often to us.
Any guess who I'm talking about?
Don't worry, I'm not accusing you of lying to others (but if you are, you should probably fix that).
I'm going out on a not so far limb, and guessing you lie to yourself. Quite often actually.
And more often than you probably realize.
You're probably thinking, "No Kirstin, you're wrong. I don't do that."
Save the few women out there who have mastered self love, chances are you probably do.
It sounds something like this;
I'm not good enough.
I'm not smart enough.
That will never happen to me.
I'm a failure.
I'm not pretty enough.
I'm not talented enough.
No one cares about me.
I don't deserve friends.
I'll never find someone to love me.
They're lies. Period.
And they're lies that we tell ourselves all the time.
The crazy part is we not only tolerate it, we often feed into it.
Others can't lie to us.
But we've created a life, and a society, where it is 100% ok to lie to ourselves.
We probably don't even realize that we're doing it.
I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one out there doing this.
So, here's your reminder, that if you need to, read daily.
You ARE good enough. And you are smart enough. You don't need to understand everything to be considered smart. And great grades aren't the only thing that determines how great your brain is.
You live in a world you've created. What you tell yourself will become, and is, your reality. It will happen to you, if you believe it will, and work towards it.
You aren't a failure. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone goofs up.
Mistakes don't define you.
Worthiness does not define worth.
You can, and you will, learn from your mistakes, and move on.
You CAN do it.
You'll never be pretty enough. That's the way the world is. IF you're looking for others, and societies ridiculous beauty constructs to tell you you are pretty.
The truth is, you are beautiful in your own way. No one else looks like you. No one else can ever be you.
There is beauty and power in that.
Also, if you believe you are beautiful, everyone else will too.
You ARE talented. And when you focus on your unique set of gifts, you'll find that you are talented enough.
If everyone could do the same thing, or was good at everything, life would be pretty boring.
I guarantee that there is someone out there that does care about you.
Even if you can't think of someone, I promise there is at least one.
The big guy upstairs (God) does.
He loves you.
He's rooting for you.
He doesn't want you to fail.
In fact, He wants you to succeed gloriously.
It's NOT impossible.
In fact, I believe someone very wise pointed out, the word itself says IM- POSSIBLE.
You do deserve friends.
We're human. We want and need friendship and company.
Be yourself. Don't apologize for who you are.
Friends will come.
There is someone for everyone out there.
You can find love.
So, moral of the story?
Stop lying to yourself. You are wonderful. You are fabulous. You are beautifully, and uniquely made.
Don't let anyone ever tell you differently.
Especially not yourself.